That is the question we asked ourselves upfront. Why do this? What do we have to offer blended families out there? Aren’t there enough resources already?
75% of stepfamilies complain of “not having access to resources as a stepfamily,” according to a recent Stepfamily Foundation survey of 2000 web questionnaires.
The reason to do this is not a short, simple, obvious and easy answer. It took some wrestling with some insecurities. The very fact that we both had a previous marriage that ended put thoughts into our heads that we had no business offering advice or information on how to make a marriage work, much less one that blends two separate family units into a new unit that is supposed to be cohesive and uplifting.
Over 60% of second marriages, and 70% of third marriages end in divorce
We both came out of marriages that were unhealthy and very painful before meeting each other. There was pain during the marriage, during the divorce, and after the divorce. That pain takes time to heal, and during that healing, we both realized we have a heart for having a healthy marriage. We strongly desire to see people in relationships that build each other up and bring life to those in their family. Since that seed was planted in us, we have been searching for ways to bring hope and healing to other marriages, in particular, second marriages.
The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.
Edmund Burke
The first steps we took were to get involved with some people at our church who also have a strong heart for marriage. We currently volunteer at our church to help people starting their first marriage in the hope of it being built with a foundation that won’t end in divorce.
1300 new stepfamilies are forming every day.
US Bureau of Census
If you have come across this blog, and read this post, you are likely one of those stepfamilies. You are either beginning to build the foundation for a healthy blended family, or you are already in one. Our hearts yearn for you to have a solid foundation, for your marriage to be healthy, and for your relationship to be one that prospers and grows in strength.
We are starting this with open minds and hearts for the direction this blog takes. We pray that you are blessed by visiting here and blessed by what you read and do with that information.
